As a leader, you “win” by default. You set the direction and tone. How you instruct others to operate, usually, is how they will operate. When determining if something went right or wrong is your call.
So don’t be a jerk.
There are few things in life more insufferable than the boss who needs to flex their, “bossness.” It never seems to motivate people to their best effort and productivity inevitably suffers. Treating staff with respect, as people, usually makes the way smoother.